Well, going home for the weekend was truly a blessing. I didn't accomplish some of the "this and that" kind of things I wanted to, but God was good.
The weekend was great, but there was a rather sobering even that happened. My pastor's daughter had been expecting a baby boy named Caleb for five months. On March 1st, her and her husband found out that Caleb had already gone to heaven. The mother gave birth and plans were made. The calling hours and funeral went as good as they can. God touched our hearts and gave strength to pastor and his family. Pastor preached a phenomenal message titled, "What I Believed in the Light I Still Believe in the Dark." If you would be so kind, please allow to my digress a few moments on dealing with loss and death. There are several misconceptions about it. I'm no expert, but I've my share of experience with it. I lost my father when I was six months old.
- Telling someone you understand. – No you don't. Not unless you have gone through precisely the same things they've experienced all their life leading up to this point. You may know what it's like to lose, but you do not know or understand exactly how they feel.
- Telling someone that they can "get remarried" or "have more kids" or something to that effect. – Wow. Did you really just say that? I'm sorry, but that will not help at this moment in time. The only thing people really want to know is that you love them and you are praying for them.
- Just keep pressing on and it will get easier. – This is the biggest misconception. I was talking with a friend of mine who also lost his father. The truth is, it doesn't get easier. It will always hurt. But God's mercies are new every morning. You "learn to deal" so to speak. You fall. You cry. You ask questions. But then you get up. You wipe your tears off your face. You accept it as God's plan and move on with your life. This is an oversimplification because it can only be done through the strength of the Lord.
- If someone dies tragically or suddenly, they must have been out of the will of God. – Seriously? This is just not true. The day my father passed away, he told my mom that he had answered the call to preach.
I hope this doesn't come off as a rant, because it's not intended to be. Just some things I noticed and found to be misunderstood.
People often wonder why things like this happen. Well, I believe we can find the answer to this question in the Bible. II Corinthians chapter 1. Paul writes, "And whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effectual in the enduring of the same suffering which we also suffer: or whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation." One of the reason we suffer and go through things is so that God can use us to help others that are suffering. James 1:2-4 tells us we experience trials so that God can complete us. In summary, we could cite many verses in the Bible about trials and suffering. The reason for it is to draw us closer to God so that we can be used of Him in a greater way. It makes Him more real to us and forces us to depend on Him.
Overall the ministry weekend was good. I was able to teach Sunday School, sing in morning and evening services, and preach on Sunday night. The Lord strengthened pastor over this weekend. He needed some rest. God used this weekend to give me some much needed rest as well. Also I was blessed financially (which was not a goal, but something God did).
Glad to be back at school and in the home stretch! 54 days until commencement and 122 days until graduation! It's gonna be a crazy semester, but God is good.
God bless.